✨Growing Up Too Fast Is a Trauma Too!

“You’re So Mature for Your Age” — But at What Cost?

Some of us didn’t grow up.

We were raised by responsibility. We were the ones who knew how to call the relatives when mom was sad. The ones who “understood” when there was no money for our needs. The ones who became small adults, not because we wanted to but because the people around us needed us to be.

“You’re so mature for your age” wasn’t a compliment.

It was a signal.

That something had shifted too early.

That we had begun carrying loads we had no business touching at that age.

We became parents before we had children.

Caretakers before we understood care.

Problem-solvers before we had time to become people.

Now we are here…

At that age where people say:

“It’s time to start a family.”

“It’s time to build something of your own.” But how can you build something new

when your foundation was survival? You were just 10 a few years ago, weren’t you?

You didn’t get the chance to play, to make mistakes, to figure things out.

And now you’re expected to be whole, wise, and ready?

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This is trauma.

Not the dramatic kind. The quiet kind.

The type that teaches you to always be okay.

To fix, help, carry, and perform.

It teaches you to forget yourself

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So how do you heal?

You start slowly

🧠 Name what you lost.

🫶 Let your inner child play.

🧘🏽‍♀️ Practice letting rest feel safe.

🗣️ Speak about your experience.

💛 Allow yourself to begin again.

You’re allowed to unlearn survival and choose joy.

You don’t have to hold everything together anymore.

You deserve to live, not just survive.

This space, Reflecting & Healing, exists so we can say the hard things out loud.

You’re not alone.

And you don’t have to carry it alone anymore.

🧡 Until next time,

Chisom